Become clear on why achieving this result is important to you!
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Day 3: Get Some Leverage By Asking "Why?" Contrary to popular belief, people are not motivated by the goal itself. People get motivated by connecting with something much deeper. Ask yourself, why is achieving this goal absolutely necessary for you? As an example, if your goal is to buy a new home. Is it the home itself that will keep you moving forward? Or is it the “why” behind the home itself? What reason allows you to get some leverage that you can use to ensure that you will stay committed to your goal? Maybe your “why” is to provide shelter for a growing family. Maybe your why is the freedom, or security being a homeowner represents to you. Everything that we do, we do for emotional reasons and we justify with logic. Your “why” will be directly attached to the emotions that you desire to feel in achieving that goal. Being clear on this is what will get you through the hard times. It is often said that if you have a big enough “Why”, the “How” takes care of itself.
I cannot stress this enough. No matter how much you believe that just having a clear goal is going to get you there, you will not achieve your outcome unless you get some leverage by having a compelling “why”. And when I say “compelling”, I mean why is achieving this goal an absolute necessity for you? Are you doing it for yourself? Are you doing in for family? For your spouse? For your children? For a group of others that are less privileged than you? The more compelling the reason you have that will allow you to get some leverage on yourself to achieve the goal, the easier it will be to stay focused when challenges arise…. And they will.
To help you get clear on your why, I want you to enter into your journal two lists. Be completely honest when you do this. Now that you have clarity in regard to your goal, it is time to “get some leverage” on yourself.
The first list is… what will you not longer tolerate in your life? What will it cost you if you do not achieve this goal? What will it cost you in financially? What will it cost you in your relationships? What will it cost you in your career? What will it cost you in your physical health? What will it cost you Spiritually? What will it cost you in terms of self-confidence and self-respect? Take some time and seriously think about these answers. Be honest with yourself and be willing to experience some serious discomfort as you think about it. What will it really cost you? Put it in your journal.
The second list is… what will you gain by achieving this goal? What will you gain financially? What will you gain in your relationships? What will you gain in your career? What will you gain in regard to your health? What will you gain Spiritually? What will you gain in terms of your self-confidence and self-respect? Again, take some time and seriously think about these answers. Be honest with yourself and allow yourself to feel excited as you think about it. The more excited you can become thinking about it, the more excited you allow yourself to become, the easier attaining your goal will be. Allow yourself to get as excited as you did when you were a child expecting amazing things. What will you really gain? Put it in your journal.
Keep building these two lists to get some leverage on yourself until you are clear on why this is an absolute necessity now and not just something you “hope” will happen.